Insightful Compassion for Change
Our intimate partnerships usually begin with the best of intentions and a swirl of positive feelings. As everyday stressors pile up, responsibilities increase, and conflict and disconnection can seem to take over. Needs go unmet, and expectations aren’t shared or acknowledged.
Finding support through these times is important, whether it’s through a faith community, family, or friends. Professional therapy for couples offers an enhanced and structured way of getting your relationship back on track, whether it’s been derailed by life cycle changes (having young children; retirement) or major challenges such as job loss or infidelity.
When you seek help from Beth Spring, you will experience a kind and insightful approach that honors your goals. Beth prides herself on relationship repair. From the outset, Beth is paying attention to three things during an initial therapy session: Can the partners talk together productively? Are there amends that need to be made for past hurts? What is the larger family context both of them come from?
Beth will acquaint you with top resources and current research to increase understanding of relationship dynamics. She takes an active role in couple’s therapy, prompting you and your partner to approach more confidently the conversations that are the hardest to have. She will coach you to learn and use communication skills such as validation, de-escalation, “time out,” and appreciation.
Beth often hears partners who are struggling through a time of conflict or disconnection say they are losing hope for their relationship. As a marriage friendly therapist, Beth holds onto hope even when it seems you can't. It sets a context for working together, focused on repairing, healing. and skill-building for improved communication, conflict management, emotional connection, and intimacy.
The key to a stable and satisfying marriage is awareness: awareness of your feelings and expectations, and those of your partner, and understanding the impact your words and actions have on the relationship. This is not magic -- it requires effort and commitment. The good news is that the skills necessary to create secure and satisfying relationships can be cultivated.